QUIZ – WHAT KIND OF COACH PARENT ARE YOU?
1. Your daughter did not study for her math test and received a C. You:
Look at her paper and berate her for being lazy.
Ground her because she didn't study, but follow it up with a hug and tell her you know she will do better next time.
Welcome her to the "C Club" and giver a high five for being average. After all, you never did well in math either.
Look through the test, go over each mistake with her, and explain that mistakes are how you learn. Tell her not to worry about the grade because it's just one test.
2. Your son is playing on his varsity basketball team. He gets his fourth foul and is thrown out of the game. He yells a profanity at the ref, takes off his jersey, and storms off the court. You:
Follow him out the door and yell at him for fouling out.
Follow him out the door and insist he apologize to the ref after the game for his unsportsmanlike conduct.
Yell at the ref for the bad call and leave the game with your son, all the while insisting the ref was an idiot.
Follow him out the door and tell him you understand his frustration but the ref takes time out of his own day to referee the game, and swearing at him is inappropriate. While you won't tell him what to do, you think he should go back in, apologize to the ref, and watch his teammates finish out the game.
3. Your daughter speaks disrespectfully to her grandmother, who asked your daughter to take out the garbage while she was watcher her favorite show. You:
Unplug the TV, get in her face, and go off on her for thirty minutes about why she can’t talk to her grandmother that way.
Tell her calmly that she may not speak to her grandmother that way, and, as a result, show won’t be able to go out with her friends this weekend.
Tell her you totally understand where she is coming from, and then instruct her grandmother not to bother her during her favorite show.
Tell her she should pause the show, take out the garbage, and then go back to it. But first – she must apologize to her grandmother.
4. Your son comes home at 1:00 a.m., ignoring his midnight curfew. You’ve been worrying for the last hour because he was not picking up his phone. You:
Stand in the driveway in your bathrobe waiting for him. When he gets home, he is going to be grounded for a month!
. Remind him that he must call if he’s going to be late. Next weekend, he has to be back an hour earlier.
You barely noticed. He is a boy. Let him have his fun.
Give him a hug – thank God, he’s home.
5. Your son’s screen time has been increasing, and he has been letting his homework slide. You:
Shut off the Wi-Fi in the house, and tell him his work comes first.
Make him do his homework where you can see him to ensure he is not watching Netflix or playing video games.
Stay out of it. It’s his problem.
School is hard! Sit with him and help him with every problem.